被寵壞的人是不會對你好 "A Spoiled man/woman is never going to treat you right"

A woman’s difficult life is usually her own fault.
A sales lady, June, once told me this.

June was 28 years old, the time to think about marriage.
But she instead broke up with her engineer boyfriend after a visit to his house.

When she entered his house, his grandmother said her boyfriend’s backpack was too dirty so she washed it clean.

At that time, her gentle boyfriend turned to his grandmother and said angrily, “Next time don’t touch my stuff!”

In order to cool the situation, she said to the loving grandmother whom she was meeting for the first time, “Aw, next time he can do it himself.”

Not only did the grandmother not appreciate it, she scolded her (softly), “Let a man do the washing? This is a woman’s work!”

June later met her boyfriend’s mother. She was extremely smart and capable as a housewife, and also a great cook. Her house was spotless, so my friend complimented her. Immediately, her boyfriend replied, “Learn from my mom so you can cook delicious food for me.”

June smiled but didn’t respond. She was feeling uneasy as she remember what her boyfriend had told her before: “My dad has a mistress. Only my mom doesn’t know.”

After dinner, June helped do the dishes. Her boyfriend naturally smiled with satisfaction. He complimented her, “A hardworking woman is the most beautiful woman.”
And then sat down in the living room to watch NBA.

At this time, his mother came into the kitchen and sighed, “Our lives as a woman are difficult. Socially, we need to be a lady. In the house, we need to be a housewife, we need to know how to do everything. You must know this: in order to capture your husband’s heart, you need to first have his stomach!”

Naturally, she doesn’t know her husband’s heart is not with her.

“It’s not that I don’t have what it takes to be a lady and a housewife” June said. “But can’t men be responsible for their lives too? Why do they need to be spoiled like that?”

Because of all these, she refused her boyfriend’s marriage proposal three times.
Right after they broke up, her boyfriend immediately got married.

Although she is sad, in her heart she understands that it’s better to end it.
May be he found a girl who is more capable than she is.
She is sure, that woman certainly has a tough life.


「女人的辛苦，很多是自己找的。」
曾在一家電子公司擔任採購專員的秀君這麼說。

秀君二十八歲。正是考慮婚姻的年紀，
卻因為到工程師男友家拜訪而頭痛不已，考慮分手。

她一進門，男友的祖母就說，
男友有個布背包太髒，已經幫他洗乾淨了。

這時對她很溫柔的男友，竟然很兇的對祖母說：
「以後不要亂翻我的東西！」

秀君為了打圓場，對這第一次見面的慈祥祖母說：
「以後讓他自己洗就好了嘛。」

祖母不但不領情，還很溫和的教訓了她一句：
「怎麼可以讓男人洗東西？查某人該做的就要做。」

秀君發現男友的媽精明能幹，又是烹飪高手，
把家中弄得一塵不染，才讚美伯母一句，
男友馬上高興的接口說：
「妳以後要跟我媽好好學，煮好東西給我吃。」

秀君笑而不答，但心中已經有點發毛，
她想到男友曾經告訴她：
「我爸爸有外遇，就剩我媽不知道。」

吃完飯後，秀君幫忙洗碗，男友理所當然的對她投以滿意的微笑，
稱讚她「認真的女人最美麗」，
然後自己坐到客廳看ＮＢＡ比賽。

這時男友的媽擠進了廚房，跟秀君感嘆：
「我們女人很辛苦，出外要當貴婦，在家要當主婦，
什麼都要會才行——
妳! 要知道，
要抓住丈夫的胃，才能抓住他的心哦。」

她果然不知道丈夫的心已經不在的事實。

「我不是沒有成為主婦加貴婦的條件，」
秀君說：
「可是男人難道不能人生責任自負嗎？一定要這樣被寵壞嗎？」

由於心結難解，顧慮太多，
男友向她求婚三次後，秀君一直沒有答應。

男友在一分手後閃電結婚了。

她雖然難過，但心中卻明白，就此緣盡沒什麼不好。

這位男友也許找到了一個比她更賢慧的女人吧。

她很確定，那個女人，一定很辛苦。